Well, I hate writing posts like this. Thing is, when you play in the hobbying world, your STD risks are quite high. I recommend that every man that has been in the hobbying world to get an STD test. For many guys, the fear of their partner finding out about the STD test is enough to stop them from getting the test. Think about that. Fear from their partner's reaction trumps an actual STD. This in very common, so don't feel so bad here.
To counter this, I recommend getting a discreet STD test. One in which does NOT go through your medical insurance. The last thing you want to do is to have this on your record, or have some letter or phone call sent to your house that your partner sees!
Remember, the earlier you catch an STD, the quicker you can come out of it and play the game better than ever!
It all comes down to supply and demand. There will always be demand for escorts, but are their prices coming down? Ultimately, it comes down to where you're looking. Back page escorts are notorious for being insanely cheap. Most times, you do get what you pay for. Women that are with several guys a day, with a huge risk of STDs. You do find some diamonds in the rough, but you have to do some serious homework.
When I say homework, I don't mean read her ad and gawk at her images & services. Review the escort thoroughly. There's a reason cheap escorts are charging less for services. There are so many escort on back page nowadays that they are competing against each other.
Don't get me wrong, a hobbyist loves getting a girl to do X for a dollar amount. At the end of the day though, is it worth the STD risk? I mean, is it?
Back page now no longer accepts credit cards. So what's left are girls that use pimps (Basically) to manage their ad postings. I mean, how many escorts do you know how to use Bitcoin? Or write a check for credits. Yea, exactly. Most of these cheap escorts on Backpage aren't even the ones posting their ads.
Again, there are some that do it themselves, but it's such a small percentage nowadays.
I've said it before and I continue saying it, avoid escorts. Try matching up with girls that are looking for mutually beneficial arrangements on sites like Arrangement finders.
The news lately with the hack of dating sites have been nuts. First you had the Adult Friend Finder hack of 3.5 million members. Then, you had the gigantic hack of Ashley Madison. Ashley Madison is a site that has over 37 million member catering to men and women seeking affairs.
Now that's a monster hack. The crazy part, I believe this is the tip of the iceberg. Think about it, can you imagine the blackmail value here? Now, take it a step further. Don't you think escort sites are just as vulnerable? You have real address of the escorts, and the men that use their services.
Many escorts use verification services. How secure do you think they are? I'm telling, be very wary of the information you put out there. If it touches sex, be wary!
If you're like me, you absolutely love young college escorts. I mean, the skin, the tight little bodies, I love paying for these girls. Beyond love these girls. Now, I've been a hobbyist for a while. What I'm finding however is the diminishing pool of these young college escorts out there. Granted, I could care less if they're in college, but young escorts in general. The quality pool has dropped a HUGE amount.
After some ground level market research (cough cough), what I've found is a shift in their approach. These girls no longer are looking for 30 guys to pay them, they're looking to have 3-4 sugar daddies looking to take of them. This whole concept of mutually beneficial arrangements has been exploding with girls under the age of 25. With that being said, I've learned as well to change my approach both from a lingo perspective, and expectations.
Most of these sugar babies love the idea of having a pseudo relationship with you. I say pseudo as they're not just looking for an hourly rates with PSE / GFE services. They're looking to be spoiled, but at the same time, they're not looking for a boyfriend. I consider this a dream for a guy like me.
The crazy part is, these girls aren't looking for a ton of money. They're not at the point where they're true hustlers (overall), so you don't have to deal with the BS that you do with the run of the mill escort. Furthermore, you can't to have some real fun with these girls. Think of it as a modern version of a having a female friend with a ton of benefits. No drama.
Hard part, is finding which girls are into this. The key I've found is to use sites like Arrangement finders, that cater to this sort of thing. By increasing the number of girls in this pool, your success rate skyrockets. If you live near a major city it's pure gold!
When it comes to escort guides, the clear leader in the space in terms of active listing are Backpage escorts. The issue with being the leader is all the spam and false ads that are listed. If you think about it, many of the escorts on Backpage aren't even real - they're men posing as women to get your email address (and of course try and sell you on some BS service). So, what sites are similar to Backpage? Is there anything comparable to Backpage worth looking into ?
After using several providers out there, I've found you need to go to where the girls are - true online as it is offline! Here are my top 3 sites similar to Backpage:
Now, for some of you, what you'll learn is that going the escort route isn't worth the risk. Since virtually anyone can post on Backpage, you're dealing with a high probability of getting some sort of STD. The alternative to this is going the mutually beneficial route. This is where you'll find women who do not consider themselves escorts. Instead, they're looking to make ends meet. As a result, you'll find women that aren't with multiple partners, just one or two. The leader in this space is Arrangementfinders.com, with over 3.3 million member, you'll have a field day making some killer arrangements.
With the summer among us, more and more men are looking at escorts to increase their summer fun. For the newbies, they will turn to Backpage escorts to get their cheap thrill. There's a huge reason why I'm recommending to stay away from Backpage: STDs. With the increase in demand (men) there will be a slew more supply (escorts) in BP. These girls will service many men in a given day, every day. The math seriously dramatically increases your risk of catching an STD. Believe me when I tell you no STD is worth. Whether it's the nuisance of warts, the longevity of herpes, of the lifetime killer of AIDS.
Think with the right head here guys. Instead of going the route of escorts on backpage, try going another route.
My advice, take a look at the growing trend of mutually beneficial arrangements. This is where you find everyday girls looking to make ends meet. They aren't escorts, but they will provide you that unique arrangement you desire. The main player in the space is ArrangementFinders.com
Recently, there's been a surge in HIV positive tests in the porn industry. For an industry that is fighting a city to NOT wear condoms, this surge in HIV is not helping their case. One of the major issues is the girls themselves aren't getting paid enough. As a result, many of them turn to being an escort. Granted, can you blame them, they get top dollar. Thing is, their clients want a true PSE, ie no condoms.
So be warned fellas, while it might be tempting to go after a real PSE, you'll be better off going with a PSE that isn't in porn! These girls, will demand a rubber to be worn
Believe it or not, many of the girls on Backpage are controlled by a central marketer. You like how they use the term marketer now. I call Bull on that, it's a straight up pimp. These 'marketers' promote these girls everywhere on backpage, they even screen the calls for the girls. In turn, for each appointment the pimp makes for the girls, he gets a cut of the rate.
Think about that for a moment... the concept of a street pimp is now moved to the online world. Making matters worse, these girls have some heavy mileage (YMMV). AS a result, these backage ads have a HIGH amount of an STD rate. Since most of the guys from backpage that get STDs don't want to communicate about it, they simply keep it to themselves. Then, they move on to the next STD infested backpage escort. The cycle continues to get worse as many of these men are requesting BBBJ.
Stay away from the low end back page escort. You have been warned!
A buddy of mine and I were discusses some past and present experiences we had. A few beers in, after some incredible stories being shared, we came across a dilemma (a difference of opinion if you will). The GFE. The Girl Friend Experience (by the way, if you're a fan of Sasha Gray, you should watch her oldie by goodie The Girlfriend Experience).
Anyways, what do you consider a GFE? In my book, its some sort of date occurring before closing the deal. In my buddy's book, there's no date or conversation, just kissing. I'm like, c'mon. Seriously. Kissing.
I always felt you need multiple girls to handle the GFE side of your personality, and at times, when you want the straight up PSE. Life is all about balance right!
When it comes to independent escorts, the first thing that comes to mind are backpage escorts. This is the lowest of the low end. Talk about STD central. I recommend going to review sites, where members review the experience they had with the escorts. On one side, you at least know what you're getting. On the other side, it brings home the fact that this girl is shared more than your Facebook update.
Agency escorts have more rules involved, but lets face it, at the end of the day they are still working as many men as possible. Granted, these girls charge more so their risk is lower than the rest (but don't fool yourself, still quite high).
The alternative is going the non escort route. Given the down economy, there are tons of girls simply looking to be taken care of. They don't want to be with hundreds of guys, just one or two. It severely minimizes the STD risk, while still giving you the experience your looking for. Check it out at ArrangementFinders.com